CARING is our fifth ethical core value. Caring is the heart of ethics and helps you decide what is right or wrong. However, is it possible to be truly ethical and not have a genuine concern for others? When we decide with our dilemma choice, can we still hurt those we care about with our ethical thinking still cause pain? Here are examples of lying:
A girl is taken to a carnival by her dad. It is her tenth birthday and he’s promised her that she can choose any 5 rides. But as they approach the gate, he discovers that he’s forgotten his wallet. This is the last day of the carnival and it’s too far to go home and come back before it closes. He counts the change in his pockets and tells his daughter that he has enough money to pay the entrance fee and they can go inside and look at all the exhibits and the parade, but there wouldn’t be any money for rides OR she could lie about her age and say she was five and get in for half-price, which would leave enough money for the 5 rides. They walk to the gate and the ticket seller asks the girl, “How old are you?” What should she say? What would you do in this situation? Why? Is there another way to handle it? Is it possible for her to tell the truth and be rewarded for half-price?
Another child received a shirt from grandma. The child did not like it at all but mom wanted him to write a note to grandma thanking her for the beautiful shirt. What should he do? Lie to not hurt grandma’s feelings?
We definitely and consciously do not want to cause more harm than is reasonably necessary.
We have one more core ethical value discuss for next week.
We are continuing our search of how to make the right decisions to the dilemmas not only in our own lives but when we face the dilemmas of today’s children in our schools. We already faced two examples about Gary and the Hunt family. I wonder how you did in solving them? What was your right decisions?
Another quality of trustworthy is integrity. Webster’s dictionary says that it is the quality of being honest and fair like “He’s a man of the highest integrity.” For the child to understand, it is a “the condition of being free from damage or defect
or total honesty and sincerity.” The person of integrity takes time for self-reflection or self-examination so that they stay in control of the things that happen (events), crises of the day and the pressure of circumstances. However, there are things that may get in the way like:
- Self-interest — Things we want. I would like to go on more cruises. I want this website to do well and to hope for more teachers to read this article on values.
- Self-protection — Things we don’t want. I do not want to be disappointed in myself or be angry or let anxiety run me over and cause my behavioral to change.
- Self-deception — A refusal to see a situation clearly. I want to have that clear reasonable decision to help others.
- Self-righteousness — An end-justifies-the-means attitude. I don’t want to be narrowly minded or be convinced of one’s own righteousness especially in contrast with the actions and beliefs of others.
What would you do about Larry’s scenario?
Larry is the Department of Children and Families representative in your state who inspects and checks the qualification training records of staff. This one particular school Larry knows the director, Grace, quite well. It seems he has a crush on her, too. Other staff members can see the glow on his face, when Grace shows him the areas of the school. When Larry inspects the files, he notices that several staff are not up-to-date with their certifications including Grace. Larry seems to not take it seriously and he overlooks the records and does not mention it to Grace. Of course, Grace knows her records along with the other staff members are not up-to-date.
Question: You saw this happen and you know Grace has discussed to the staff to get those trainings done. What is the right decision for you about Grace or Larry? Does integrity take place in your conscious?
In our next segment, we will look at another quality of trustworthiness: “reliability.”