The ME ME ME Virus or attention seeking children are everywhere! Everywhere you look, people are demanding attention! The desire for attention is universal regardless of age, color, language, culture, etc. As adults, we want our bosses to notice us and our spouses to talk to us. We need to feel important and heard. It’s the same way with children as they demand our attention. Children want to seek attention in positive and useful ways but if they can’t get it that way, then they will seek attention in negative and useless ways. Some yell, some cry, some want to be yelled at, some talk too much at the wrong time knowing they are doing this inappropriate behavior.
There are 2 kinds of noticing behaviors: the “me” behaviors or help “me” behaviors. In the notice “me” behaviors, you may be faced with eating problems, showing off, acting the clown, interrupting or whining. In the help “me” behaviors, you may see laziness, untidiness, forgetfulness or pretending to be incompetent. Children use these actions against teachers and parents when they seek attention that is not found appropriately.
If you have an attention seeker in your midst, how do you deal with it? I ask you is ignoring the only way to stop negative attention seeking behavior? Do you spend time arguing or getting upset with the child who is looking for answers? What happens if you do encourage, instead, and praise and spend time with the child, will that help? Do you substitute being good with something to ignore that bad behavior? Would that help? What about “one-on-one time? It sure is hard to give that one-on-one time, since 2-7 minutes are spent at home and now in school! Are we all in the same boat? How do you tackle this behavior, as we get them ready with the world??? Need some answers!!!!
5. Music Activities help promote and encourage the children’s listening skills, creative expression and social interaction. When music is used, children are able to explore sound, volume, tempo and rhythm. (There are many educational concepts taught through music out there that fit the curriculums of today which produce the rhythm and movements that children need to build on.) Here are 3 samples of my music found on William Janiak’s You Tube.
Try “7 Days in the Week” (Sit-Down Activity)as an example:
Try “Do You Like Foods?” (Sit Down Activity)
Try “Keep Moving” (Up Activity)
Remember, a child who is encouraged to enjoy and learn from music during the preschool years is a child
who is likely to have a well-developed sense of creativity. Music actually helps the child learn all kinds of different things
that you might not at first associate with music.
Next week, Part 6.
I have seen the child’s self-expressions brought out vividly when music is used and as the child reacts. When a song has a strong emotional impact, children’s express themselves by attempting to sing, sway their bodies, dance, or clap. You will note that music becomes an excellent medium for these group experiences and allows interactions in an acceptable and successful non-threatening way to reach children at different levels of abilities.
Almost all children love music to varying degrees and some naturally start to dance when they hear it. I remember a child with cerebral palsy in a wheelchair arise out of his wheelchair, stand up, turn around to grab the wheelchair arm rests and then started to wiggle to the music. The staff said they thought he was deaf and were amazed what happened that day! Others
enjoy clapping along in a group with sing song games. And many enjoy singing
to themselves or with others. I used a kazoo to reach a child who would not talk and whisper and the humming brought out his voice.
This love for music is natural and great for the children. Music is important to the healthy development of the children. The love of music will remain part of their successful experiences! It encourages the growth
of creative impulse in the children. But more than just encouraging creativity
and supporting, it helps to forge important pathways
to the brain which have been shown to improve math and thinking skills. Additionally, children with the music therapy tend to be more capable of developing and controlling their
physical movements. And finally, music is something, which inspires joy, and a
joyful child is a happier, more well developed child.